If the chauvinist ultra-Chinese kiasu of DAP, Dong Zong or CPM were so sure of the rightness of their cause for Bangsa Malaysia, why the fierce intolerance displayed towards anything Malay? This leaves a traumatic experience to one party if the cause is forced to be abandoned or modified; and to the other party if it is forced through unmodified.
The result of seeing the dissimilarities from within the lens of the respective traumas are very serious. Can we really negotiate with this? Can we explain to each other that our respective perspectives on our way of life and on the differences are seriously flawed? If one tried will the other listen? Do we have time to wait until we do?
One on going case history. It seems that the PR-PAS-DAP relationship is a kind of an abusive marriage. Love and comradeship are assumed to be there, resulting in the abused partner keeps feeling bottled-up and acting hyper-sensitive, and tries even harder to hide his true feeling with the abuser just so the marriage is intact. PAS grassroots maintain friendships with their counterparts and other ‘pro-PAS’ Malays and non-Malays and simply decide not to discuss relationship or racial politics. However there is an emotional blackmail going on because if DAP did mention PAS sensitivities; or PAS mention how the DAP abuse PAS, the relationship would be over.
A PAS member of my mosque was striking a conversation with me about the aspect of the emotional abuse within Chinese way of rearing pigs that use to causes pollution, inconvenience and uneasiness among Malays. This rearing is more often seen as used against the Malays, and to add salt to wounds words like, “Makan babi haram, bau tak haram maa” were thrown in.
According to him, a Malay, even a child, is raised to accept a very heavy sense of personal responsibility towards his neighbour that almost stand at par with his normal sense of personal responsibility towards Allah. To illustrate, a dog is more than a nuisance to a Malay, but because it belongs to his non-Malay neighbour, he is abused to keep a smiling face, just so to give face to his neighbour. It creates a disturbed personality who is always feeling guilty for not saying out and thus reinforcing the too-weak-guilt feeling of not standing up to his neighbour’s abusive behavior.
This perceived Malay “permissiveness” has socially “allowed” the kiasic and chauvinistic anti-Malay ultras to go way beyond the learned trauma of their suppressed homeland fore-father experiences that results in typical reactionary behavior when they land themselves on far-away foreign shores. They actually automatically participate in group behavior that is deliberately manipulative and abusive. Over the years, they have become increasingly nutty not only due to current events but due to the internet "alerts" coming to them from “off-shore kiasu chauvinistic ultra Chinese”, who set their wits to be humbly arrogant in the dream world of “Malaysia boleh land”, which to them must be truly treated as a “finders-keepers-boleh-land”.
Then, encouraged further by PAS; (or is it because PAS was successfully manipulated?) they extend their abuse towards our Sultans; by proxy at first?
So we are dealing with not only dangerous reactions based on past trauma – CPM insurgency, PAP, May 13 and now DAP/PKR - but hardcore chauvinists are actually being trained since childhood to interact with the Peribumis (PAS first UMNO next?) in a deceitful and arrogant manner (negarakuku?, Chin Peng?), in coordination with each other, to emotionally destroy the credibility of Peribumi critics, in addition to wrecking their wider social relationships. Remember Hindraf has gone oversea? Who has gone underground into PKR? It is actually like deliberate, wicked, planned behavior motivated by a egotistical self-righteous inborn superiority-complex.